• Lost that Loving Feeling?

    Posted on February 13th, 2009 by and currently 2 commenting.

    The other day my little girl, Kylie, was proudly showing Valentine’s cards she’d made. And of course, they were all brilliant. One that sticks with me is one that read, “ I love you with all my might.” It was an innocent reminder that Love is verb. Love is what you do. It’s not a feeling. In fact, Love is what you do especially when you don’t feel like it.

    It’s sad to hear people say, “I just don’t love them any more. I have no feelings for them.” Maybe people who feel that way have it all backwards. We demand a feeling to drive our behavior. We do for each other when we “feel” something for each other. What if we actually started doing for and truly loving each other? Put action first. We may quickly learn that the good feelings we long for: joy, desire, passion, adoration, infatuation, respect – are the guaranteed reward. In doing so, we’d never live without or lose that loving feeling ever again.

    With all my might, Happy Valentines Day.

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  • http://www.sparknewthinking.com Mark Henson

    Well, thanks a lot! I was feeling kinda irritated with my wife because I hadn’t been feeling the love from her this week. Then I read your post and felt rather stupid. I was waiting to passively feel love from her rather than making love a verb, getting off my rear end and giving it to her instead.

    I usually get great creative inspiration from you guys. Never imagined I’d get Valentine advice that was so wise.

    Gotta go love my wife now.